The “Grand”est of Families

Recently my middle son started his freshman year of High School. This moment arrived much sooner than I was ready for. All freshmen are expected to attend an orientation, as are their guardians. As I was walking from class to class, learning the daily schedule of a 9th grader and talking with the other adults, I noticed something that surprised me. Many of those eating lunch and going through orientation were grandparents, not parents. I decided then to do a little research.

According to AARP almost 2.5 million children, in the United States, are living in homes where grandparents are the primary caregivers, we will call these grandfamilies. This arrangement allows the children to have a family connection that can enrich the life of the child and the grandparent. The children get to live with family that love and nurture them and provide guidance. The grandparent gets the opportunity to provide security to the grandchildren and keep the family together. They also get to develop a closer relationship with their grandchildren.

There are many struggles these grandfamilies face. A simple thing such as a doctor’s appointment could be challenging if the proper paperwork is not done. Financially there could be struggles as grandparents on a fixed income now have to raise another generation, many times unexpectedly. Even more concerning is the fact that the world has changed since the grandparent raised their own children. Electronic devices, internet, drugs and general safety has changed and is continuing to change. Grandparents need help in keeping up with all these changes.

Sometimes grandfamilies need to know they are not alone; others are in the same situation.  Zoia Martin a grandparent who has taken care of several of her grandchildren throughout the years stated, “Grandchildren have a hard time, they have periods where they miss their parents so much and that is the hardest part.” She advises to keep the parent connection if possible, remind them there is love.

To help address some of the grand parenting issues, Aging Matters invites all grandfamilies in the area to participate in some free upcoming conferences.

On Tuesday, October 4 there will be a Grandfamily Conference at St. Andrew Lutheran Church in Cape Girardeau. And on Thursday, October 20 at St. James Outreach Center in Hayti is Caregiver/Grandfamily Care Day. These conferences will offer information on legal issues, support services and offer grandparents the chance to become familiar with those who can answer questions.

When asked the best part of raising her grandchildren Martin did not hesitate to say, “The kids say, and do things that let you know they appreciate you.” We all should appreciate these amazing caregivers who are making a difference in the lives of these children.  Please call the Family Caregiver Program at Aging Matters to register or if you have questions, 1-800-392-8771.

SHOWING COMPASSION

As many of you know, we started the I Believe bible study series at our church and it covers the basic beliefs that all Christians should follow. Last week the lesson was on compassion and I wanted to write about the lesson and share an inspiring story a friend of mine experienced on the subject just last week.

The verse for this week was: “Defend the poor and fatherless: do justice to the afflicted and needy. Deliver the poor and needy: rid them out of the hand of the wicked.”- Palms 82:3-4.  The lesson first went over God’s compassion on the Jews throughout their history.  Using Nehemiah 9:1-38 it showed how they rebelled and sinned against God, but each time they repented and cried out for help, He forgave them of their sins over and over again.  

Then we looked at Deuteronomy 24:17-22 & 25:5-10 where Moses gave the law about leaving some of the grain, olives and grapes for the poor to harvest, as well as not taking the items poor people put up as collateral for a loan and paying workers what was due them each day.

All of these were the way those who had money helped the poor and needy. It also looked at James 1:19-2:13 where he taught against treating the rich different from the poor and how the church was giving the best seats to the rich.  
There were also a few questions to get us thinking about how to apply these lessons to our everyday lives and we had some good discussion on these points, but this question made us think the most: What hinders you from showing compassion to those in need? We listed the following:

We are too busy and don’t have enough time to stop and help others.

We are in debt too much and don’t have any extra money to help all the causes we would like to.

We don’t trust God to take care of our needs if we give help to someone else.

People make the same mistake over and over and we lose patience with them.

We think that some folks are just scamming the system and don’t really need help.

We think there are government programs that we already pay for that could help them.

These are the ones we identified that cause us to not help those in need as often as we should.  The lesson pointed out that we should trust God to provide for us. It also pointed out that changing our priorities and how we use our time is important. Most of us agreed that we watch too much TV (NFL Network for me). The other big point that really hit home was not spending all our money and being in debt.  Our debts and spending on our comforts can really limit our ability to help those who are hurting. We think we are poor, but 1/3 of the world’s population lives on less than $2 a day.  That’s only $730 a year, which makes even a low $20,000 a year job in America look like a millionaire to most of the world!      

My friend Scott called me Friday with a wonderful testimony of God working in his life, and when I shared it with my class they were inspired.  Scott went to the Ferguson Christian Church for a special prayer service and fellowship supper on the one year anniversary of last year’s riots. When he walked in, he noticed a man sitting by himself who looked very sad.  The guy was kind of dirty, disheveled and looked needy. Despite his appearance, Scott decided to go sit by him and start a conversation.

Scott said the man seemed a bit confused as he told him things were really bad for him.  He had come to the service for the free meal because he was out of money.  The day before he had been informed by the court that he would have to start paying 1.5 years of back child support for his grown children.  He has a very low paying job and the child support would take most of the money from his check leaving him no money for bus fare to get to work. He was afraid he might have to quit and this left him distraught.   

As Scott was praying for the community, he also prayed for this man’s problems and felt the Lord lay on his heart to help him.  He had a feeling that $300 is what he should give him. Now Scott is a kind-hearted person, but he is very tight with money and he doesn’t just give it away willy-nilly.  He went to Pastor Kingston Arthur and told him about the man and asked the preacher to check out his story and see if it was true. Scott said he felt led to help the man and asked the preacher to let him know once he checked things out, but never told the preacher an amount.

The preacher called this week and gave Scott a rundown of all the man’s bills.
- $78 for the bus pass
- $138.26 for the child support ($69.23 x 2weeks) 
- $80 for two weeks rent

That came to $296.46. When Scott informed him that the Lord had laid $300 on his heart, they both felt the Lord was ay work. The preacher said, “God is good! I definitely think the number $300 was divinely laid on your heart. Are you okay if I share this with others? I find it to be a powerful testimony.”

Scott told him that would be fine and he was sending the $300 right away.

There are several things worth noting in this testimony:

Scott saw someone who was hurting and despite his appearance took the time to talk with him.  He showed he cared and learned about a need.

Scott took time to pray about that need and when prompted by the Holy Spirit to give his money away, he obeyed.

He talked with the preacher and investigated to make sure the help would go where needed.

Scott is a saver with low debt and was able to answer the call to give $300 away.

He didn’t focus on how this man had caused some of his own problems.

He didn’t just let the government or church help the man.

Not that it matters, but in this time of difficult race relations, I think it is good to mention this gentleman was black. So there is still a lot of good going on between blacks and whites that never is reported in the news.

I thought his story perfectly reinforced Palms 82:3-4 and the points in our lesson.  Scott took the time away from his busy work schedule to attend a church event. Then he went out of his comfort zone to talk with a stranger he could tell was hurting. He prayed about a need for someone else and even though he is on a tight budget he did what the Lord led him to do.

Too often I don’t take the time to talk with those less fortunate than myself. I’m willing to pray for others, but when it comes to giving $300 out of my monthly budget that is hard.  $30 or even $50 I could easily swing, but $300 would be rough. How many of us would trust God enough to give away $300 to a stranger who was behind on child support?    

Our lesson defined compassion as “suffering with” someone, and I think that is exactly what Scott did. The lesson also made four statements about what we believe.

I believe God calls me to be involved in the lives of the poor and suffering.
I believe I am responsible before God to show compassion to the sick and imprisoned.
I believe I should stand up for those who cannot stand up for themselves.
I believe that Christians should NOT purchase everything they can afford, so that their discretionary money might be available to help those in need.
I checked that I believed all of those. The lesson pointed out that saying you believe it, but not doing it, shows you really don’t believe it.  The true test is if you follow through with actions. So can you say your actions show you believe all four of those?  We decided the last one was the hardest.

  ***Bonus story about not letting mistrust keep you from helping others***

Dad’s Generosity

I learned a very important lesson from Dad when we lived in Charleston. A man stopped by the church and told Dad that his wife had cancer and that he had no money and needed help to pay her hospital bills. Dad couldn’t give him the church’s money without talking to the deacons but since this man was just passing through and couldn’t stay, Dad prayed with him and gave him some of his personal money.

A few days later, after talking with other community leaders, we found out that this man had stopped at all of the churches with the same story. Sadly, it was all a lie. He didn’t have a sick wife and was only scamming folks out of money. Dad was not the only one to give him money, but I will always remember everyone making fun of Dad for giving the guy money and not getting his contact information or even his license plate number in exchange.

Dad never cared about money, but he admitted he should have checked into the man more. I will never forget what Dad said: “We are not responsible for what people do with the money we give them. That’s between them and God. We are supposed to be generous and help others, and God will take care of the rest.” I have tried to remember that lesson when I see people who need help. Many times I think they are just lazy, or drunk, or scamming people, and I don’t want to help them. But then I think of Dad and how he helped that guy.  Who knows what his real problem was, and who knows if Dad’s kindness had an effect on him or brought him to the Lord.

Many times, we don’t help people because we judge that they don’t need the help. We should be wise in our giving, but we should also understand that while we may occasionally give help to undeserving people, we want to make sure we don’t withhold help from those who truly do need it. I hope I can be as generous and giving as Dad was. I know I try.

Cussing Christians by Rod Jetton

Part 1

A friend of mine asked this question. “Is it always un-Christian to cuss?” To answer let’s first define what cussing is. Meriam-Webster offers a one word definition of cuss; “curse.”  

They provide the following simple definition of curse, “an offensive word that people say when they are angry: magical words that are said to cause trouble or bad luck for someone or the condition that results when such words are said: a cause of trouble or bad luck.”

They also offer the following full definition, “1 a prayer or invocation for harm or injury to come upon one.  2 something that is cursed or accursed. 3 evil or misfortune that comes as if in response to imprecation or as retribution. 4 a cause of great harm or misfortune.”

If I ask, “Is it okay for a Christian to cuss?” You might say its okay. However if I ask, “Is it okay for a Christian to curse?” You probably have more doubts.  But since cussing is actually the same thing as cursing, we find there is not much in the definitions of cursing that seems very “Christian.”

 Now you’re probably thinking, “Rod, get off your spiritual high horse and live in the real world. Just because I let a cuss word occasionally slip out doesn’t mean I’m cursing people and wishing bad on others.”

 At this point I am reminded of what Thomas Case said in his A Treatise of Afflictions when he wrote, “If I have not written here what I have found, I bless God, I have written what I have sought.” I’m most definitely no saint and I sure don’t have virgin ears.  In the Marine Corps I heard plenty of cursing (or cussing as you may want to call it).  I’ve listened to well-educated officers from some of the finest universities in America drop the F-bomb numerous times in one sentence.  It seemed like it was the only adjective they knew and I felt it made them sound completely ignorant. I’ve also heard Gunnery Sergeants use curse words so effectively it sounded like well-spoken poetry.  They somehow used curse words at just the right time to add the perfect amount of emphasis as they reprimand a lance corporal.

Unfortunately, I’ve also done a lot of cussing (I’ll call my cursing cussing, it makes me feel better) myself in the past. Ironically, my language was worst in the times I drifted farthest away from God. So instead of me giving you my opinion on Christians cussing, let’s look at what the Bible says.  After all, that’s what us Christians say is our guide on how we are supposed to live our life.  

When cussing is a big temptation for us or curse words are the first thing to come out of our mouth when things don’t go as planned, these first verses may tell us a little bit about what is in our heart. Matthew 15:18 says, “But those things which proceed out of the mouth come forth from the heart; and they defile the man.”  In Luke 6:45 Jesus also added, “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” These verses show us one way to tell what is really in our hearts. In Jerimiah 17:9 the Bible says our heart is deceitful and no man can understand it.  It seems God is telling us one good way to identify what is in our heart, is for us to reflect on what comes out of our mouths.  If cussing and cursing is always coming out, that’s probably a good sign of what’s inside us.

These next verses tell us what kind of man uses bad language with the last two contrasting what kind of language we should use:  
•    “A naughty person, a wicked man, walketh with a froward mouth.”  The NIV version says it like this, “A troublemaker and a villain, who goes about with a corrupt mouth.” -Proverbs 6:12
•    “But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.”- James 3:8
•    “Their throats are open graves; their tongues practice deceit." "The poison of vipers is on their lips. Their mouths are full of cursing and bitterness." -Romans 3:13-14
•    “But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.” -Colossians 3:8
•    “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” -Ephesians 4:29  
•    “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” -Colossians 4:6  
To me these verses paint a very unflattering picture of a person who uses bad language. Take a moment to think about a person who you know who is always cussing.  What’s your opinion of them? How would you grade their temperament? Do you see their conversation building up others or spreading grace?
Next, I want to go to those tried and true words of Paul that all “good” Christians bring up anytime they want us to stop doing something they think is bad.  1 Corinthians 10:31- 11:1 “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Do not cause anyone to stumble, whether Jews, Greeks or the church of God -- even as I try to please everyone in every way. For I am not seeking my own good but the good of many, so that they may be saved. Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.”

Even though these verses have been misused to beat believers over the head legalistically, I feel they effectively apply to the question of cussing. If we believe we should follow Christ’s example, we will find there are no recorded verses in the Bible of Jesus cussing, and I feel all the other verses highlighted above make a strong case for Christians to guard their language.

If you don’t like Paul’s preaching and are convinced that your cussing is appropriate, or adds emphasis that helps you communicate your feelings to others more effectively, I want you to consider a few of Jesus words on living the Christian life. In Luke 17:1-2, “Jesus said to his disciples: ‘Things that cause people to stumble are bound to come, but woe to anyone through whom they come. It would be better for them to be thrown into the sea with a millstone tied around their neck than to cause one of these little ones to stumble.” Wow, that is a VERY scary warning. Do you think a cuss word slipping out of your mouth could cause anyone to stumble? He added in Matthew 5:16, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” How much glory do you think your Father in heaven enjoys from your descriptions of things when you’re angry?  Do you think others are pointed to Christ when you use cuss words to help motivate them? Do you think God is pleased and ready to come to your rescue when you utter a curse word about your miserable life while things are falling apart?
Maybe you’re thinking, “That’s all good and well Rod, but I’m kind of annoyed at all your spiritual goody, goody talk. Life doesn’t work that way and we can’t always do everything the Bible says.”

Okay, I hear you and propose you consider a few real life examples:

EXAMPLE #1 - When I was in the Marines, our battalion had two chaplains assigned to it. A priest for the Catholics and a Lutheran minister for the Protestants. With only two chaplains for a whole battalion serving on 13 different Navy ships, they couldn’t hold services on all of them each week, so I volunteered to be a lay reader. Lay readers were responsible for leading services for all faiths when the chaplains were not around. I’m Protestant and attended those services before we were deployed, but the protestant chaplain would occasionally tell off-color jokes with a few bad words thrown in.  They were funny, we all laughed and he seemed like a good guy, but I thought it was a bit odd that a chaplain would use that kind of language.

To better serve the Catholics on my ship I also attended Father Trazic’s masses.  He went through all the Catholic rites, but when he gave his homily, he would preach strongly against drunkenness, whoreing around and all the other things that young sailors and Marines tend to indulge in.  He never told an off- colored joke nor used bad language.  I’m sure the other chaplain had the best of intentions and was just trying to relate to a bunch of young wild Marines, but once we were deployed in 1993 and then got sent to Somalia after the rangers were killed, the protestant chaplain didn’t have too many people coming to his services, but Father Trazic held some fairly large masses, and I was right there on the front row.  

You see, when there is a chance you might get shot and die, you don’t want a chaplain who was telling off-color jokes and using bad language praying over you. Most of us were far from perfect and we knew if we went down and were bleeding out, we wanted a good man who was trying to keep us on the right path praying for us as we entered eternity.  

I’ll never forget towards the end of that deployment as we were doing a big field exercise with the French Foreign Legion in France and Father Trazic came by our area to visit with the men.  While he was there, a cold rainstorm blew in and he didn’t have any rain gear. I watched as about 30 cold hungry Marines took their rain gear off and tried to get Father Trazic to wear theirs and stay dry.  You don’t often see infantry Marines do anything to help a Navy guy from headquarters who is out visiting the men in the field when the weather is bad.  Normally they want them to suffer so they have to endure what the infantry does.  But these men respected Father Trazic, they loved him, I loved him and after all these years I have never forgotten that crusty Polish chaplain who didn’t shy away from telling us young Marines what we needed to hear.

EXAMPLE #2 - When I was 18, I spent the summer before college working in construction with a good Christian man who was friends with my father. He was in a gospel group, taught the boys Sunday school class and was someone I looked up to a lot.  One day we were pulling some thick wire through a small pipe and he asked me to go get the lubricant that would help it slide through easier.  He called it “baby sxxt” because it was brown and runny.  It was an accurate description of the lubricant and it’s not a terribly bad word in that situation, but I was shocked.  I never said a word to him, my dad or anyone, but I just never expected a Sunday school teacher and gospel singer to use any bad words.  He was a wonderful man and maybe I shouldn’t have been so surprised, but I just didn’t expect it. As a young man heading off to college, it stuck in the back of my mind that maybe a good Christian could cuss some and it would be ok.  

One thing you should know was I have never heard my dad cuss.  He is a preacher and in all my life I’ve never heard him say a single cuss word. Now as a teenager I drifted away from the Lord and I cussed a lot, but I thought that all preachers and good Christians were like my dad.  That was the first time I had been around a good Christian in a secular environment and heard one cuss.  I had heard lots of other people cuss, but not any Sunday school teachers.

 I saw my dad get angry a lot.  When working on cars, he would throw wrenches, bust knuckles and yell at me to hold the flashlight still, but I never heard him cuss. I thought that was the way all church leaders were supposed to be, but as I grew up I learned that people like dad are the exception.  Most let a word slip out here and there, while many make it a frequent habit.  But it’s a habit only when they are not at church or around other Christians!

EXAMPLE # 3 - Last summer I was at a good friend’s house when his 14 year old son came in and let a “damn” slip out.  My friend who is a Christian, got onto him and told him to watch his mouth. This surprised me because I had questioned my friend about the many times he used “dxxn” and “sxxt” in his casual conversations with me. When I had brought it up, he told me he didn’t do it that much and that it wasn’t a big deal.

So once his son left the room, I asked him why he was giving his boy a hard time about cussing when he cussed all the time himself.  At first he argued with me about how often he cussed and then said it wasn’t good for his son to use bad language.  I didn’t want to be too pushy so I just ended the conversation by saying, “I don’t think you will have much luck teaching him not to use bad words if you’re always letting them slip out.”

Now I haven’t said much else about it when we are together, but I guess he is thinking about it more because now when he says one of these bad words in our casual conversations (which happens frequently), he stops and apologizes and has admitted that maybe he does need to work on saying them less.  He is thinking about doing a cuss jar that he and his son have to donate to if either of them let a word slip out.  

EXAMPLE #4 - A few years ago when I was back on track with the Lord, reading my Bible and praying every day, the Lord used my lost employees to show me my language needed cleaning up.  I was supervising a small staff and some of them cussed quite a lot.  I didn’t say anything and tried hard to let my example speak for itself, but one day things were not going well and they were griping and complaining about stuff and using bad language and I stood up and said, “Look, you all need to buckle down, stop your bitching and whining and just get the job done.” I added, “And I would appreciate it if you all would watch your language and stop cussing so much!”

I sat down feeling good about myself and that I had finally said something about the bad language when one of the guys said, “I think you’re right and as soon as you stop using bad language we will too.”

Oh Snap!! I started thinking to myself, “What, me use bad language!  What in the world was he talking about???? I never used bad language, as a matter of fact I pride myself on not using bad language.”

I turned back around and self-righteously shot back, “I don’t use bad language!”

He calmly replied, “You say bitching and pissed off all the time.”

In just the blink of a second I could feel my cheeks turning red with embarrassment as I was quickly convicted of my hypocrisy.  I wanted to tell them those were NOT bad words.  Those were just Marine words, much less offensive than all the other words used in the Marine Corps.  But I knew my opinion didn’t matter.  I knew these kids I was supervising and trying to be a good Christian example to had been hearing me curse for the last six months. 

 All I could do was apologize for using curse language and commit to stopping and slink back into my office.  Despite my good intentions I had blown my chance to be a good witness, and honestly when he first confronted me I wanted to justify my language and tell him those were not bad words. But my human logic was quickly proved wrong by his response and my prayers afterward.

Interestingly enough, my dad and I had just been talking and I had used the word screwed in our conversation.  Dad made a point to say he didn’t think that word sounded that good and suggested I not use it.  He went on to rant about preachers today who use it in the pulpit and added that “pissed” and “crap” were other words he had been hearing young preachers use that he felt were not very positive.  I didn’t bring up my use of bitching to dad because I knew that would be one he didn’t like and I chalked his talk up to an old preacher rant and patted myself on the back for all the “bad” words I didn’t use, quickly forgetting about dad’s opinion. (Why is my dad always right?)

CONCLUSION

Those are all real life examples.  Lots of Christians justify their bad language by saying it helps them relate to others and keeps them from looking to goody, goody, but have you ever thought about all those who are lost around you and what message they are picking up?  They may not be worried about getting shot and bleeding out, but if they ever do worry about eternity, will you be the one they want to talk to?  If they have a hard time, will you be the one they ask to pray for them, or will they think you might not be the “best” choice to help them through their tough time?

Have you ever been a stumbling block to a younger person? Maybe they never said a word to you about your language, but what were they thinking?  Could your words allow them to justify their actions because of your example?  Would they be able to say, well Rod did it so it must be ok?

Do you want your kids to grow up cussing at people when they cut them off in traffic, or spewing out a blue streak when they drop something on their toe?  Our small cussing problem can grow into full blow cursing for our kids.  They can curse those who hurt them or even worse curse God when things don’t go right.  Sometimes what we do just a little bit, our kids do a lot.  I would say most Christians hope their kids turn out to be better Christians than themselves.

 Maybe you are like me and justify your bad words as not that bad.  Maybe your mom said them, or at work they say them and you just don’t think they are that “bad.” Do you compare your language to others and convince yourself that you’re not so bad? Both those justifications caused me to be a stumbling block to others.   
One of my favorite books is The Practice of the Presence of God. It’s about how Brother Lawrence, a 17th century monk had such a close relationship with God.  One of the points he stresses more than once is to, “Do nothing, say nothing and think nothing displeasing to God.” I find this difficult, but Brother Lawrence continually drives this point home as he explains what it means to practice the presence of God. How often do we stop and contemplate if all our words are pleasing to God?
I’m currently looking at a small card on my desk that’s titled 5 Resolves for Personal Revival.  Item #2 on the list says, Forsake All Questionable Habits and Activities and references Romans 14: 23. Next to that it has a small box to check with these words written beside it, “I will not go to bed this evening nor live this day without removing from my life every habit or activity I cannot be absolutely sure is approved by God.” (1 Corinthians 10:31, Romans 13:14 & Romans 14:14.) I picked it up after our revival last week and I’ve been looking at it every day during my prayer time. I know I need to check that box, but it’s a serious promise to make and I’m meditating on all I may have to “give up.” Would there be any words you might have to give up if you checked that box? 

Most Christians don’t want their preacher to cuss.  They don’t expect their Sunday school teacher to cuss and they don’t want their kids to cuss. But for some reason we go to great lengths to justify why it’s okay when we cuss.  The funny thing is, we do a pretty good job of never cussing in front of our preachers, Sunday school teachers and unless we’re really mad, our kids.  But there is one fairly important guy who is always around to hear all our cuss words.  Any guess who he is????
We pat ourselves on the back because we don’t take the Lord’s name in vein by saying God dxxn, and we don’t drop any F-bombs or use the really “bad” words. Many of us seldom witness to others and we spend most of our time at church complaining about the sad state of the world and wonder why more people don’t come to church and get “saved” just like us.

 Could it be because they have decided that they are already… just like us?????  

An Apple a Day Keeps the Doctor Away

When I was a young 20 something I had an old clunker of a car which had been passed down to me from my older sister. It wasn’t fancy but it got me from point A to point B, which is all I needed at that time. I learned a lot about cars; how to check the fluids, change a tire and fix little dents and even cracked windows. I babied that car for as long as possible. Eventually I traded that car in for a younger, newer model. Since we can’t change ourselves in for a more updated model we need to do our best to do as much “upkeep” as we can and preventive services can help.

Medicare has put a lot of focus on preventive services in the last few years. Preventive services are screenings to look for disease before a patient has symptoms of a disease. Why is it important to find out if you have a problem before you have symptoms? Because finding problems early can save not only money but also lives. Using the old car idea, it is much cheaper to get regular oil changes than it is to replace an engine.

Medicare will cover a variety of preventive services at $0 out of pocket cost. Some services are available to everyone; some are covered only if you have certain risk factors. Aging Matters has check lists and guides to the preventive services so you can see what might be appropriate for you.

If you have had Medicare for longer than 12 months you are eligible for a yearly “Wellness” visit. This is not a physical as most of us expect it to be. It is an assessment of your current health, a review of your medications, family history and a review of what risk factors and treatment options available to you. This is an opportunity for you and your provider to assess your health and possibly schedule you for more testing, if appropriate.

Other preventive services that are available include:
•    annual flu shot
•    Pneumococcal shot
•    prostate screening
•    glaucoma tests
•    colorectal cancer screening
•    tobacco use cessation counseling

For more information on preventive services or if you would like a guide to services, please call Aging Matters 1-800-392-8771.

Anxiety Disorders- Christy Phelps

Christy is employed by Bootheel Counseling Services.

Anxiety disorders are one of the most common mental illnesses diagnosed in America, the National Institute of Mental Health reports that as much as 21% of Americans struggle with an anxiety disorder.

It is normal to feel nervous before a test or giving public speech, many people will say they feel anxious before these type of events.  However, to have an anxiety disorder is to feel day in and day out, chronic exaggerated worry about common routine life events.

One type of anxiety disorder is generalized anxiety disorder which can cause, fear, panic and significant uneasiness for no apparent reason.  Left untreated, an anxiety disorder can significantly decrease a persons quality of life.  

Anxiety disorders can also produce physical symptoms such as racing heart, excessive sweating, difficulty swallowing and the feeling of not being able to breathe.  It is not uncommon for someone to end up in an emergency room due to the extreme discomfort that anxiety can cause.

If you struggle with anxiety, or have a friend or family member who does, please know there are treatment options available.  Bootheel Counseling Services has a team of mental health professionals who can work together to tailor your treatment to your needs.  

We know it takes courage to walk through the doors of a mental health agency so if you're not ready just yet, call and speak with a therapist or call our crisis line at 1-800-356-5395.